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Praise for The Better Boundaries Workbook
“The most comprehensive resource available to help people struggling with setting healthy boundaries, people pleasing, and assertive communication.” —Dr. Marni Feuerman
“Boundaries can easily bring up feelings of guilt, fear, or anxiety, but Sharon makes the difficult process of setting limits feel accessible. With the many scripts, vignettes, and other tools, you’ll discover a step-by-step process for maintaining boundaries in every area of your life. This workbook is a must-read for anyone who struggles with people-pleasing, perfectionism, or codependency.” —April Snow, LMFT, licensed psychotherapist and author of the Mindfulness Workbook for Stress Relief
“Working with The Better Boundaries Workbook is like having personal sessions with a very wise and compassionate therapist.” —Jennifer King Lindley, award-winning health journalist and the author of Find Your Joy: A Powerful Self-Care Journal to Help You Thrive
“Ever wondered whether your boundaries need improvement, how healthy boundaries look, or how to create and strengthen them? You’ll find all the answers here.”
—Jonice Webb, PhD, bestselling author of Running On Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect and Running On Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships
“The Better Boundaries Workbook is a clear, caring guide to help people build stronger boundaries.”
—Tracy A Malone, founder of Narcissist Abuse Support
The Better Boundaries Workbook
A CBT-Based Program to Help You Set Limits, Express Your Needs, and Create Healthy Relationships
by Sharon Martin, MSW, LCSW
This evidence-based workbook will show you how to set healthy boundaries across all aspects of life—without sacrificing your kindness or compassion for others. You’ll learn to define your boundaries and discover why they’re so important for your emotional and physical well-being. You’ll also find a wealth of tips for maintaining boundaries in a ‘constantly-connected’ world, strategies for what to do when people get upset or threatened by your assertiveness, and ways to make sure your needs are met.
If you’re tired of feeling guilty or afraid of putting your mental and physical health first, are ready to take back control of your life, and create healthy and balanced relationships, this book will show you how to step up and set limits, assert yourself confidently, and realize your full potential.
A simple step-by-step approach
Setting boundaries doesn’t have to be confusing or overwhelming. Practice Sharon’s simple approach to setting boundaries with family and friends, your boss and coworkers, social media and tech, and even yourself!
Stop Feeling Guilty
It’s time to let go of feeling guilty about setting limits, considering your needs, and speaking up!
Practice the assertiveness skills that you need to say “no” and set limits. Boundaries are essential to keep yourself physically and emotionally safe and to safeguard your time, energy, and money for the things that matter most. Setting limits can also protect you from getting involved in exploitative relationships, and help you avoid toxic personalities who don’t have your best interests at heart.
Express your needs
We all have needs–such as respect, belonging, safety, and appreciation. And when we can directly and kindly ask for what we need, we build healthier, more satisfying relationships.
A note from the Author
Sharon Martin, LCSW
I’m excited to share The Better Boundaries Workbook with you because I know, from personal and professional experience, that healthy boundaries can transform your life. If you struggle to stand up for yourself, ask for what you need, or feel guilty or afraid when you do, learning to set boundaries can increase your self-esteem and confidence, and help you create respectful, satisfying relationships. Of course, this doesn’t happen all at once. As you know, setting boundaries is tough. However, I’m confident that with the concepts in this book and committed practice, you can learn to set effective boundaries.
About This Workbook
Through my work as a psychotherapist, it became clear that so many of my clients’ struggles were related to their difficulty setting boundaries—and there was a need for an evidence-based guide to teach these skills. And, so, I wrote this workbook to share the practical skills and strategies for setting boundaries that I’ve successfully used with my clients.
In part one of this workbook, you’ll learn what boundaries are, why we need them, and why they’re hard to set. Part two focuses on how to create and communicate boundaries, and how to handle boundary violations. In part three, you’ll learn boundary skills with others, including at work; with your partner, children, extended family, and friends; and with difficult people. And in part four, you’ll practice boundary skills with yourself, including respecting other people’s boundaries and creating healthy limits and habits for yourself.
This workbook uses cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), an evidence-based approach to understanding the connection between our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. The CBT exercises in this book will help you identify inaccurate thoughts and beliefs that are making it difficult for you to set boundaries and replace them with thoughts that are more accurate and helpful.
In addition to CBT, I use mindfulness and self-compassion concepts. By tuning in to the present, mindfulness can help you regulate your emotions, especially when you’re overwhelmed or upset. And self-compassion fosters self-acceptance, resiliency, and motivation.
This workbook is full of exercises and reflective questions designed to help you practice and integrate the concepts you’re learning.
You can learn to set boundaries.
Setting boundaries is both challenging and rewarding. This workbook can help you overcome the challenges and reap the rewards of better boundaries!