What Type of Boundary Setter Are You? - The Better Boundaries Workbook

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I feel guilty when I say no or set a boundary.

Never

Occasionally

Often

I prioritize self-care and enjoyable activities.

No. I prioritize other people's needs over my own.

Definitely. I never compromise on self-care or doing things for myself.

Most of the time. My needs are as important as everyone else's, so I try to make time for myself.

When someone violates an important boundary, I'm willing to have a difficult conversation with them.

No. I avoid the conversation for as long as possible or I might feel guilty and second-guess myself afterward.

Yes. I know it's important to bring up my concerns.

Yes. I address things head on.

People take advantage of me.

Often.

Rarely. I usually speak up if I'm being mistreated.

Never. I don't tolerate mistreatment.

I share too much about myself before I know people well.

True.

No. I get to know and trust people before opening up.

No. I rarely open up and share anything personal even with people I've known for a while.

I ask for help when I need it.

Most of the time.

No. I can't rely on others to help me.

No. I don't want to be a bother.

I'm frequently overcommitted or overscheduled.

True. I have trouble saying no.

False. I say no to most invitations and requests.

I say no when I need to.

When I think someone will respond to my boundaries with anger, I back down or avoid the issue.

Yes. I can’t stand people being angry with me.

No. I set the boundary anyway. Their anger isn’t my problem.

No. I never back down and may respond with anger, too.

I'm willing to compromise.

Rarely.

As long as the other person is willing to give a little, too.

Yes. I give in easily to keep the peace.

I can take no for an answer.

Usually. It hurts, but I'm used to hearing no.

Usually. I don't take things personally.

No. I'll argue and persist until I get what I want.

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